At 84, former city teacher finds new career as author

By NOELLE FRAMPTON

Monday, January 24, 2005
The Norwalk Hour

Hour Staff Writer

NORWALK - When envisioning life at age 84, most people probably think of relaxation and quiet: But Bernice Becker, a former Norwalk resident and widow of the longest- running superintendent in Norwalk schools history, thinks of accomplishment. Becker, who now lives in Springfield, Mass., recently published her first book, "Feel Good Stories" at nearly 85 years young.
"You're never too old to do something," she said. "It wasn't easy to do at my age but I did it. I'm doing more now than I was when I was a young woman, believe it or not." The book is a collection of 27 short stories about her life. Most are humorous, some are serious, but all have the goal of bringing joy to readers. The book has been very popular so far Becker said, adding that she is "amazed" at how well it is selling.

"I'm not trying to brag. I'm trying to be honest," she said. "I have a special way of writing that makes people laugh, I think. I put myself into each story I'm very upbeat ... for my age. You live longer if you laugh than if you cry."

Becker said it is a shame tat more senior citizes don't try to write. "We have a lot more wisdom in us than we did when we were young," she said. "You'd have to be in a coma, unconscious or dead if you can't think of something (to write)." Becker taught second and third grade for 32 years and was always an avid storyteller, she said. She told and acted out some of her stories for the Cameo Club Golden Girls Pageant at age 80, where she was the oldest participant.

Becker said she was inspired to write her stories in a writing group she has attended for the past 10 years at her local Jewish Community Center, adding that hero daughter Barbara Becker Holstein, a psychologist and author of three books, helped her to organize and publish the stories. Becker has written about 40 stories that aren't in the book and plans to continue writing, she said, but added that she chose the best ones for "Feel Good Stories."

Some of the book's charming stories - like the time she was mortified to be rescued by the man who did her yard work - take place in Norwalk.

Other stories tell of childhood events, like the time a coin fell down her shirt from above in a movie theater and she thought she was shot, or the time her underwear fell to her, ankles in an upscale department store.

"If anything I make fun of myself, not others," she said. Becker holds a master's degree in psychology from the University of Bridgeport. She lived in Norwalk for many years with the late Dr. Harry Becker, superintendent of Norwalk schools from 1953 to 1970. Harry Becker spearheaded the founding of Norwalk Community College and their family was very active in the community, she said.


Octogenarian author writes feel-good tales

Wednesday, February 16, 2005
By ELIZABETH ROMÁN
eroman@repub.com

SPRINGFIELD - She laughs a lot, and she makes people around her laugh too. She always tells her friends they're never too old to fulfill their dreams and she definitely practices what she preaches.

At 85 Bernice Becker has been a teacher, a contestant in a beauty pageant, a model and a writer and she is still finding new ways to challenge herself.

She recently wrote a book called "Feel Good Stories," a collection of stories about her life that she has complied over the past few years.

"The idea for this book is that it's never too late for older people to accomplish something," she said, "getting older doesn't mean not living anymore."

She grew up in Brookline and then lived in different parts of Connecticut and eventually settled in Westfield with her husband, Dr. Harry Becker, and her daughters, Barbara and Diane. She was an elementary school teacher for 32 years, 16 of those years at Juniper Park School in Westfield.

"I didn't even start college until after I was married with one daughter. But I've always had the attitude that I can do anything if I try," Bernice said.

She had been taking a writing course with Sylvia Rosen for 10 years at the Jewish Community Center and with the encouragement of her writer friends and her family, especially her daughter Barbara who helped her publish the book, she decided to write the stories she had been telling to her students and friends orally for years.

"Everybody seemed to really enjoy the stories I told and laughed so much," she said.

Bernice starts out the book with the day of her birth and goes on to tell stories about her life at different points. The stories are short and simple.

"I wanted to make it an easy read especially for senior citizens," she said.

Spending way too much money on a pair of knee-high boots, her pantyhose falling in front of a crowd in New York City, diets that included drinking milk without the Hershey Syrup, and the myth of kissing boys and becoming pregnant are the topics of just a few of her stories.

One of her favorites is the story that describes her encounter with Ezio Pinza, a well known Italian singer with careers in opera and on Broadway and perhaps best known for his role in "South Pacific." The story describes Becker's encounter with Pinza when he came to use the phone in her house when his car broke down on the way to New York City.

"I just remember being dressed in something the cat dragged in and not getting an autograph or something to prove to my husband and family that he really was in my house," she said, laughing.

She became a model at 65 and in 2001 she was in the Ms. Golden Girl Pageant at the Jewish Community Center in Springfield, proving that she can still keep active. Her home, now at Reeds Landing in Springfield, is full of photographs of her late husband and her children and grandchildren, all of whom have supported her writing.

"I'm not a singer, I'm not a dancer but I can make people laugh. And I hope everyone who reads the book will do just that," she said.

To purchase the book, call (877) 256-9385 or go to storiestofeelgood.com


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